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Thursday, June 08, 2006

The girl in excellent condition, full options, first hand, automatic, two airbags, etc.

Recently, I spoke with an Egyptian who lives abroad after his return from a holiday in Egypt. The main purpose of his visit (as he volunteered) was to find a potential wife. During his 6 weeks holiday, he met 10 girls (all arranged through relatives and friends). Unfortunately, none of them was “lucky” to get his “full” satisfaction!

As he briefed me of his unusual and interesting adventure to find a potential wife, I couldn’t help myself comparing his remarks to similar remarks for people who want to by a car!!

YES! He was talking about all those 10 girls in terms of model, options, conditions, including previous users (apology for using such a nasty expression). Never mentioning the financial details that always took place during the negotiations with the girl and her family!

I don’t recall that he ever mentioned love or passion during his presentation on the 10 girls. It looks like buying a car, but instead of signing a business deal, you sign a marriage contract.


Blogger The AntiSocialite said...

how beastly! hmph to him for having no passion for anything but 'details', but na3mel eh, this is the old egyptian way.

i am thinking of starting a new law that outlaws any talk of financial details during wedding negotiations! (except for such important things as "jewellry allowance," "who balances the checkbook" and prenuptual agreement, all of which are kind of important.

love your blog, brother! can't wait to read more..

Monday, June 12, 2006 2:46:00 am

Blogger bluestone said...

I've seen and went through some of these crazy a groom from the US situations .. It's awful ,,
How can anyone expects that he can meet a girl and marry her in a month .... only one freakin month???

it's not only the issue of money and allowance ,,, the whole thing is not right.
I mean IT IS MARRIAGE ... How can a man come to Egypt in the holidays and expects to grap a girl and go home so he won't go back empty handed???

and how da hell (excuse my french) does he expect she would accept ,,
what happened to get-to-know-you then fall-in-love-you phases that supposed to come before marriage ??

I know it is a very tough situation .. when u live in the US and want to get married to an Egyptian girl from back home ,, it's tough
but I think it's much better to take a long vacation or may be a long break from work and get back home and take all the time u need to know someone and fall in love with her and then marriage ....
this is way better than just grap a recommended girl and start a life out of nothing

Sunday, March 25, 2007 6:23:00 pm

Blogger Utrechty said...

Dear Bluestone,

1st of all, thanks for stopping over in my "frozen" blog!
Indeed, that situation is very common for Egyptian men living overseas. I can assure you that more than 90% get married this way. But believe it or not, most of these marriages are working fine! That may take me to another issue that love before marriage is completely different than "el 3eshrah" afterwards.
Finally, I must say that I agree with your last post about "El Doustoor".
Cheers mate,


Sunday, March 25, 2007 7:09:00 pm

Blogger bluestone said...

ok ,, first of all what does ur name mean? Utrechty ???

Second ,, I don
I am not saying all marriages done like that fail .. actually I respect Egys who live overseas and want to marry a girl from home .. if they married americans ,,, what are we going to do??? :)
هنخلل احنا بقى
but I must tell you ,, if you don't fall in love with the person you are to spend the rest of ur life with ,,, it will be just a deal ,,, I hate buisniess when it comes to marriage.
Call me a fool ,, but love is a major thing wen it comes to marriage .. it makes you like the good parts abt the other half and accept the bad parts ...

Besides ,,, what is the definition of the word (working fine)?
For me it's everything or nothing
it's either great passionate love affair with friendship and respect
and willigness to make a family and a home or NOTHING

The middle ain't just working for me :)
What I know is that when I meet someone I won;t think of WHERE does he live but WHO is he and the rest can come next

I hav nothing against el-3ahra of course ,, I see it as another form of love ,, between the married couple ...

As for el-Doustor ,, keep tuning in ,, I just heard they arrested so many ppl tonight during demonstrations

Sunday, March 25, 2007 9:50:00 pm

Blogger Utrechty said...

Dear Bluestone,

People from Alex they are called Iskandarany! Since I live in Utrecht, then I should be Utrechty ;)

Let me guess from your reply that you are not married. Cos when I was young (and unmarried), I used to think the same way. But during my long life experience, I came to conclusion that love is something completely different than marriage. Let's exchange after some years about that!

I have witness many broken marriages after long love story, in the same time, I witness strong marriages that was not based on love (rather arranged, with no hidden agenda). I can't believe that I'm saying that now, but when you get older, you see the world from different perspectives (not necessarily wiser).

I guess tomorrow is the big day to watch in Egypt. Let's hope for the best as some people take it too serious and not as a game!



Sunday, March 25, 2007 10:41:00 pm

Blogger bluestone said...

THE best ??? for Egypt ....
يا عزيزي
السيارة لا ترجع إلا إلى الخلف
In Egypt it's only getting worse

Monday, March 26, 2007 11:14:00 pm

Blogger bluestone said...

THE best ??? for Egypt ....
يا عزيزي
السيارة لا ترجع إلا إلى الخلف
In Egypt it's only getting worse

Monday, March 26, 2007 11:14:00 pm

Blogger Rana said...

it's commonly known to come back home to find a wife. but, not just for people overseas, but also men here.
Arranged marriages arent bad, nor Haram, but it just needs both partners to agree to marry this way. there're many arranged marriages that failed but also some succeded...it's not a rule.
the man chooses the 'options' he wants in his future wife and the girl also has her demands, deep down....if both agreed to be considered as mere goods to be shipped for marriage, then be my guest.

Friday, November 07, 2008 8:22:00 am

Blogger Utrechty said...

Hi Rana,
Thanx 4 visiting my "frozen" blog :)
I do understand that some arranged marriages may (might) work, but I find the principal rather silly (or naieve) from both sides (but specially men).
I get to see that senario very often from Egyptians living in Europe. They return home for short holiday to find someone to marry! I guess that would spent more time to buy a car or a house.
Thanx again for your comment.

Friday, November 07, 2008 3:09:00 pm


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